Core Lessons From A Seven Year Old

22 Feb


I do not have children but I have a very dear child in my life that I affectionately call my favorite seven year old. And when his birthday comes around in a few weeks, he will then be my favorite eight year old and so on and so forth until he tells me to stop. Maybe I’ll stop when he’s in college but for now, it’s our thing.

I salute and admire his mother for the way she is raising him.  She has made great sacrifices to ensure the best for his future.  They share profound and mentally stimulating discussions that can perplex even the most educated person on Earth.  This young person has an old man living inside of him. He is intelligent beyond his years, a logical thinker, a giver, and the “mayor” of his school.

He also loves Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Power Rangers, and Bey Blades.

Any time I spend with him, I always leave with morsels to chew on. When I babysit him, I constantly texti his mother of things he said or did. I don’t know why. She lives with him. She knows. Yet, I am always amused how my favorite seven year old brings me back to reality and he has no idea the incredible impact he has had on my life. Here are a few lessons:

Loyalty and Love

This kid is fiercely loyal and protective of his Mama. He should be. Being raised in a single home, they only have each other and they protect each other equally. His love for her is tender, strong, open, uninhibited, and unconditional. He’s not selfish either. He shares these qualities on different levels with people in his circle and I’m fortunate to be one of them.  When he is around, I am not afraid or embarrassed to tell him I love him. I feel a natural protective instinct arise within when we are in public. I don’t even want to play the radio when he is around because I don’t want to corrupt his ears. His youth and innocence is so pure that I want to shield it from the elements called life but I know it is a gift and I cannot be selfish with it. Now if I could do this with adults…

Slow Down

Children do not have a sense of time except bedtime. Any time before that is their time. If I look like I am distracted with work or anything else, he makes suggestions. “You know, you’re more than welcome to watch TV with me.” “You know, I know how to do a cartwheel and you can watch me do them.” “You know, you’re more than welcome to eat food from our fridge.” (Guess I have been looking thin). I will stop what I’m doing to pay attention. I want him to know he is important to me and what he has to say or wants to do is important to me…even the current events of Bey Blade (Lord help me).


Please, excuse me; thank you, and no thank you go a long way. Period.

Laugh and Dance

This kid has me watching Disney, Nickelodeon, and The Cartoon Network. I admit, they have some funny stuff.  Quite a few of these shows are on On Demand therefore they are on repeat and memorized. After we laugh at them for the third time, he proceeds to show off his moves in the dance routine from the shows and then I’m invited to learn the routine with him. Endorphins are released and all is right in the world.

Hanging with my little homie definitely brings balance to my life and when too much time goes by, my little heart misses him.  With so much bad in the world, am I wrong to hold on fiercely to this little good? I’m looking forward to our next fruitful moments to see what new seeds he will plant in me.


What life lessons have you learned from that special child in your life?



Reading is Forgotten

20 Feb

My spirit and mind thrives to explore yet, my body is bored

My senses are intrigued and thirst for new

My ability to travel are far and few

But it doesn’t halt me.


You see I can escape to anywhere I want to go

From the Caribbean beach to a cabin in the snow

All I have to do is open a book and take a look

The answers are hidden within.


Guys, I implore you to bring reading back into your lives and the lives of children you love. Even though we live in the day of so much technology to occupy our minds with senseless shows and games, we need to continue to engage our minds with literature to develop ourselves. Wouldn’t it be nice to discuss something other than The Real Housewives of Any City U.S.A.? Take a look at the New York Times Best Seller list and start this week! Share with me what you are reading these days.

book lounge


14 Feb

One of my biggest challenges is relaxing. I have heard numerous times from dear friends that I don’t know how to relax. You don’t know how to be in the moment. You don’t know how to enjoy the moment and blah, blah, blah.

So now that I have some unexpected extra time on my hands, I’m giving this whole “relax” thing a try. What have I done so far?

I drank a glass of wine.

pinot noir

Before, I used to drink a glass of wine either with a meal or when I had a rough, I mean a really rough day. There were times I wanted to skip the glass and swing the bottle to the head but I didn’t. I promise I didn’t. Today, I poured a lovely glass of Pinot Noir and inhaled the aroma deeply. Then, I put dimmed the lights and put on some Miles. I nervously walked to my couch and sat upon it and sipped wine…and listened to jazz. I did not turn on my laptop. I placed turned off my phone.

I lasted four minutes.

Then my mind started whirling wondering what texts or emails did I miss? What is going on in the world? Is Friends playing on TV? What’s on my DVR? I know, I know. I’m pathetic. But guess what? So are you! Well…some of you.  Life goes on without me and half of those people I’m reading about on social media aren’t thinking about me anyway, so I am going to implement the following:

black yogaDo more yoga: Yoga is a great stress reliever, helps reduce anxiety, it’s a great workout and helps to center your mind and body and help you focus. Umm, when is your next class? I need help in all of those areas. I am quite comfortable in the regular class so I can learn the moves plus, the soothing music and the mini nap at the end of the class brings me childlike joy.

Read a bookreading a book I remember a time when I used to read. It used to take me to wonderful places and stimulate my mind to use all those tools of reading comprehension and critical thinking. Where did those days go? They went to my smartphone and laptop. So I’m going to ditch the phone and laptop for a while and walk to my dusty, abandoned bookcase. I’m going to select a great novel, sit in my sunroom, and get lost in beautiful words.

Take a nap: Years ago when I heard the employees at Google were allowed to take naps, I almost brought a cot to work the next day to demand nap time. Quick, power naps really do give you power. Clarity of mind, increase in productivity, and boost of creativity are a few of the great things your body will thank you for.  Two warnings: Three-hour naps are counterproductive (believe me, I tried) and if you suffer from insomnia, naps may not be beneficial to you either (my mom tried).


Well, all this typing about relaxing is making me sleepy. I feel a nap coming on. Yawn.

Share with me some ways you relax after you wake up from your nap <wink>

Just Jump In!!!

23 Sep

Just Jump In!!!.

Just Jump In!!!

23 Sep

For months, I’ve been talking internally and externally about starting a blog. The mental battle of what to write about haunted me to the point that I suppressed the thought for weeks at a time.  My friend heard me rant about things that irritated me and I yelled at her, “Now you got me started!”  She said, “That should be your blog title!”  At first, I was all for it.  For once, there was clarity.  No, there were no parting of clouds and the sunrays blessed me as a sign.  It was just a little more direction of where to go. After sitting on that idea for a few days, then a few weeks, I nixed the idea.  I realized that I don’t have that many pet peeves, or do I want to present myself as an ornery, uptight human being.  There are enough of those out there.

So what do I talk about?  Politics? Naw.  Religion? Uh-uh.  Beyonce? Nope, because even though I have no desire to be like her, I do want to shake my tail feather like her. Isn’t it random I put Beyonce after politics and religion? Are you wondering why? No reason. I’m just random like that. What is amazing to me are the strong emotions people have about her. People! She puts on her underwear just like you and I! Get over it! I don’t know the tweeter trends or the latest hot spots, but I know people who are and as long as I am connected to them and can ask what is the latest and greatest, I consider myself cool.

What I will talk about is this liberating feeling of actually writing this first blog.  I’m doing it!  I’m actually writing down my thoughts to share with the world (well, really only sharing with those who open this link cause you are now my world) and hoping you don’t say I suck and stick to my day job.  Even if you do say that, I will be ok because it will help me to develop the thick skin they tell writers to get.

This blog is for the fearful dreamer.  Those of you who have ideas and dreams to do something that you think will bring you joy but are afraid for various reasons to start.  Are you a procrastinator?  Do you believe highly in others and not so much in yourself?  Have you found any and every excuse to not take that first step or leap? Well, let this day of reading this blog inspire you to DO IT ALREADY!!! If you are looking for happiness or an outlet from your daily routine, start that thing that you’ve been dreaming about at work or in the bathroom, searching extensively online about, clipping pictures of, or just driving your friends and family crazy about. Guess what? They will support you especially because they will see that it is making you happy and surprise! They will want to be around you more because you’re giving off mones (harmones, pheromones, all types of mones!).  JUST JUMP IN!!!

I’m not trying to give you that kick in the butt because we all move at our own speed, but I know this feeling I have right now, I don’t ever want to give it up and if you want your own natural high, start today. Now. At this moment. JUST JUMP IN and good luck! Share with me what you started. I’d love to hear it.